The Reasonable Person

I realize I understand men very well, and I understand women very well. I really get people.

Strangely enough, it puts me in a weird place as a “content creator” on the internet and a therapist professionally, because it seems like most people feed-off of radical and divisive ideas. They like the way it tastes.

So if I post a 90 second reel on Monday that speaks to men’s issues and a 90 second post on Tuesday that speaks to women’s issues, it can be off-putting to people who aren’t seeking balance; who don’t strive to be compassionate or empathetic, and who mainly want to feel comfortable and rarely want to be challenged - especially emotionally and intellectually.

I think I’m coming to terms with the fact that my client is and always has been “The Reasonable Person.”

In a culture & at a time where the extreme and unreasonable is consumed and sought after, I still try to find The Reasonable Person. Although I could, I choose not to try to polarize and radicalize people who choose to listen to me.

I tried on the more extreme hat for a season. It was the worst time for me. I got the most passionate people attracted to what I was saying, but they were the most unhealthy - spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.

Currently I’m working out my own balance online and how to present it. The balance between using my voice and energy to move people (a fundamental part of who I am) while staying focused on the middle-ground.

The middle ground is full of Reasonable People who are also seeking to be balanced, who strive to value their counterparts in relationships, and who are tired of feeling like they have to choose between being moral and being chosen.