I help over-functioners stop carrying relationships alone.
You don’t need to try harder. You need a different pattern — and better choices.
Taylor Chandler — Personal Development Coach + Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
The problem: high effort, low return.
You care deeply. You want to do things right. And now you’re ready to take an honest look at what needs to change to create the higher-quality life and love you really want.
Maybe you’re:
Over-functioning in your relationships — doing the emotional labor, holding the connection together, being the engine for both of you to keep it going.
Attached to people who don’t reciprocate your effort or intentions.
Trying to make something work that doesn’t show consistent evidence of meeting your needs or standards.
Giving a lot for very little return, and now you’re drained.
Stuck in old pain, so it’s hard to trust that something healthier is possible — but you still want it.
You’re not lacking awareness — you can clearly see and feel what isn’t working. The dynamic persists: you bring the effort, they bring excuses or the empty promises, and you end up carrying the relationship alone.
Your relationships aren’t rising to a level that truly satisfies you.
You’re willing to do the work to resolve this — you just need a clear path, a higher vantage point, and someone who can help you stop doing so much for so little, and start creating different outcomes.
You don’t need to be fixed — you do need to get focused. Think clearly, relate wisely, and live in a way that aligns with who you’re becoming — not the patterns better left behind.
The solution: mutual effort, higher return.
You’ve already been trying really hard. The problem probably isn’t your effort — it’s your strategy.
You don’t need to push harder. You need to see clearly — yourself, your past, your patterns, and your relationship experiences — so you can stop repeating dynamics that drain you and move toward relationships that energize you.
And you need an accurate map — a clear way out of the dynamic where you do the most and get the least in return.
I give you clear perspective and a clear path forward. Here’s how:
1. Get a Grip
We cut through noise and clear the internal clutter so you can finally see what’s happening beneath the surface— the patterns, habits, mindsets, and emotional conditioning that keep you over-functioning and over-investing with the wrong people.
This is where the drain stops.
2. Stop Compromising
Get clear about what you want — your needs, your lifestyle, the quality of relationship you’re building, and the personal goals that matter. Then stand on your square.
Instead of shrinking your needs so others feel comfortable, you learn to operate as someone who doesn’t overextend to be loved and accepted. Stop chasing. Stop performing.
Stop bending yourself around low-effort people.
Stop compromising your experience for people who don’t show up with the same effort or intention.
Stop negotiating with people who don’t show up in good faith.
You start choosing and creating mutuality because you live from a higher standard — and your relationships start to match it.
3. Step Into It
I help you align your thinking, behavior, boundaries, and emotional responses with who you’re becoming.
No contorting. No shrinking. No forcing.
Real change within you that creates real change around you — the kind that makes your relationships feel equal, steady, and worth the effort you bring.
You operate from clarity instead of urgency, standards instead of appeasing, and solid identity instead of shaky insecurity.
This is where your external life starts reflecting your internal elevation — naturally, consistently, and with ease.
I help clients move faster and go deeper with high-level coaching and support. I work with people who want to choose the right relationships — and be chosen for the right reasons. And I create content for value-driven people who are ready to become better versions of themselves and build better relationships.