Taylor Chandler

Be Attractive. Be Yourself.
Be More.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Personal Development Coach

The Attractive Match

A person with high levels of self-esteem, energy, and responsibility, who cultivates positive experiences for themselves and others. An attractive match is everybody’s type.

The Problem

Everybody wants an attractive match but there are not enough of them and/or they cannot successfully pair with one.

The Solution

Using my SER™ framework, clients develop the areas having the biggest impact on their personal life and the quality of their romantic relationships.

Norfolk Jazz Festival on Friday+ lunch (on the longest pier in America) at Ocean View on Saturday + a winery on Sunday by the river (in my stories) 🎷🌊 🍷 @iamcoachaustinwalker #norfolkjazz #norfolkjazzfestival #oceanview #norfolk #jazzfestival #baeweekend
A few tough truths about mindset + relationship: 1. Sometimes the issue isn’t the person you’re with, it’s how you’re thinking about them and your problems. 2. The most negative aspects of our mindset exist whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. Denial only delays your progress. Get checked out. 1. Increasing demands on your partner without increasing awareness of yourself is a recipe for disaster. 4. Your thoughts aren’t just in your head — they’re showing up in every interaction you have. New blog about mindset is on my website! 
 #MindsetMatters #GrowthMindset #AbundanceMindset #RelationshipGrowth #LevelUpYourLife #SelfAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #BetterRelationships #PersonalDevelopment #MindsetShift
A relationship gives you constant feedback, even if nobody’s talking. This full episode is - A Vital Conversation About Responsibility and Accountability - on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify #attitude #higherself #selfdevelopment #selfrespect #selfawareness #selfactualization #datingandrelationships #dating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #relationships
Your attitude determines your altitude” has got to be one of the best pieces of wisdom of all time. And of course, like many other most-valuable things, it gets ignored 😩 I don’t think there is enough understanding of how much your attitude impacts every single moment of your life, every minute of your date, every moment of your relationship. So I’m intent on keeping it on the forefront. Most people who come to work with me don’t come thinking they have an attitude problem. But it consistently is a part of whatever other problem they’re having in their personal life or relationship. In my work, attitude is paramount. It cannot be ignored. It needs to be emphasized and highlighted. — Especially when you get into relationship zone. Honestly, I think you can get away with quite a bit of low-level behavior when you’re single. I do think you pay consequences on it, but it’s nothing like what you pay when you bring low level behavior into a relationship. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone with a “bad attitude” you know how negatively it impacts you. Maybe it’s pessimism, hyper-criticism, distant/aloof, or resistance to change or influence or growth. It’s a drain. But when you have the OPPOSITE kind of attitude - a winning attitude - you are a positive force. Not only are those people easier to choose, they are also much more content and satisfied in their own lives. So whether you’re in one or want to be in one (and those are the only people I’m really concerned with in my work), developing a high quality, winning attitude is VERY important. #attitude #higherself #selfdevelopment #selfrespect #selfawareness #selfactualization #datingandrelationships #dating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #relationships
Six questions to help you today ⬇️⬇️ 1. Write down the vision you have for your life. What do you want? 2. Identify your values. What are you top 3? (Google “values list”) 3. Do a VERY QUICK audit. At first glance, when you look at where you are at and you look at your vision (# 1), are you clearly going towards the vision or, if you kept going the way you’re going, would you end up somewhere else? Now… 1. Are you getting positive feedback guiding you towards something that does not internally resonate with you? How is that impacting you? 2. How can you take responsibility for getting closer to your true vision and core values? And then… 1. When will you make that shift? Full episode: A Vital Conversation About Responsibility and Accountability on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify - all linked in bio #consistency #responsibility #accountability #moderndating #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #selfactualization #selfrespect #bestself #higherself #highvalues
Nothing short of remarkable. Hi, I’m Taylor Chandler 👋🏾 I help people do 2 things: be the best person and have the best relationship. After 5 years of private practice, I’ve gotten really clear on how to get people there - fast. I&rsqu
Nothing short of remarkable. Hi, I’m Taylor Chandler 👋🏾 I help people do 2 things: be the best person and have the best relationship. After 5 years of private practice, I’ve gotten really clear on how to get people there - fast. I’ve distilled this into a simple framework called SER. 1️⃣ Self-Esteem— what you think and how you feel about yourself 2️⃣ Energy — the quality of your presence and impact 3️⃣ Responsibility — the degree of ownership you have over your life outcomes Hear more on this on YouTube, my website, or listen on Apple and Spotify All linked in bio If you’re interested in working together, fill out the interest form in my bio. There’s one for individuals and one for couples. See you soon :)
We’ll be talking a whole lot about Values & Vision. When you know your values and design your life to adhere to them — your self-esteem skyrockets, your satisfaction increases, and you have this unmistakable feeling that you are on the right track. That’s a healthy high 👆🏾 When you don’t know your values, you’re inconsistent. This is first and foremost a personal issue before it’s a relationship issue. Because - When you’re inconsistent, you’re delayed in reaching goals and your confidence is lower. You are more insecure not just because of how you feel about yourself, but because of the life you’re creating. It’s stop-and-go. Too unpredictable. On top of all that, you frustrate people. Especially romantic partners. Whether you’re the inconsistent one, or you find yourself regularly dating people who are, we can fix it. Self-esteem is a fundamental part of my SER framework, and a part of that is building on your consistency and strengthening your alignment. We get clear on your values, I help you expedite the process of designing your life to adhere to your values, and in the process you become much more attractive to others — because you’re much more consistent and much more fulfilled. These are the people who have are in “overflow” and are truly pouring into others from a full cup If you want help with this, please fill out the interest form in my bio! #relationship #datingadvice #datingandrelationships #modernwomen #moderndating #dating #consistency #selfdevelopment
Some groups are promising “empowerment” while nurturing victimhood, but they never go together. New episode - A Vital Conversation about Responsibility and Accountability - up now on YouTube Linked in bio #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #relationshipadvice #dating #moderndating
Knowledge (specific and precise awareness of responsibility) + Understanding (internalizing how the reality of responsibility belongs to me and how my engagement with responsibility affects you) + Willingness (my commitment to taking action aligned with my responsibility) = A partner suitable for marriage Marriage and Parenthood are the top two responsibilities in the world. The ones most suitable are the ones most responsible. And responsibility is incomplete without accountability. Responsibility and accountability are not the same thing! Tune into this episode to understand the crucial difference. Check yourself and check your mate 👀 This full episode is for serious people. Up today on YouTube, subscribe in my bio! #relationship #dating #selfdevelopment #selfactualization #selfawareness #datingandrelationships #datingadvice #relationshipadvice
Cutting people off is too often an immature reaction. You’re going to need to learn to communicate. Relationships grow when we coach each other toward what we need, not when we make solo-decisions that affect us both. When I work with couples, I help them learn how to effectively resolve tension and get on the same team. My goal is always to have both people feeling like they don’t need me anymore, because they’ve mastered communication and maintaining a secure connection on their own. If you’re interested in working together, fill out the interest form in my bio! Episode: 🔥Better Energy, Better Options🔥 on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify - all linked in bio #relationshipadvice #relationship #datingadvice #dating #datingandrelationships #relationships #boundaries #accountability #selfdevelopment
Norfolk Jazz Festival on Friday+ lunch (on the longest pier in America) at Ocean View on Saturday + a winery on Sunday by the river (in my stories) 🎷🌊 🍷 @iamcoachaustinwalker #norfolkjazz #norfolkjazzfestival #oceanview #norfolk #jazzfestival #
A few tough truths about mindset + relationship: 1. Sometimes the issue isn’t the person you’re with, it’s how you’re thinking about them and your problems. 2. The most negative aspects of our mindset exist whether we choose
A relationship gives you constant feedback, even if nobody’s talking. This full episode is - A Vital Conversation About Responsibility and Accountability - on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify #attitude #higherself #selfdevelopment #selfrespect #se
Your attitude determines your altitude” has got to be one of the best pieces of wisdom of all time. And of course, like many other most-valuable things, it gets ignored 😩 I don’t think there is enough understanding of how much your att
Six questions to help you today ⬇️⬇️ 1. Write down the vision you have for your life. What do you want? 2. Identify your values. What are you top 3? (Google “values list”) 3. Do a VERY QUICK audit. At first glance, when you look at where
Nothing short of remarkable. Hi, I’m Taylor Chandler 👋🏾 I help people do 2 things: be the best person and have the best relationship. After 5 years of private practice, I’ve gotten really clear on how to get people there - fast. I&rsqu
We’ll be talking a whole lot about Values & Vision. When you know your values and design your life to adhere to them — your self-esteem skyrockets, your satisfaction increases, and you have this unmistakable feeling that you are on th
Some groups are promising “empowerment” while nurturing victimhood, but they never go together. New episode - A Vital Conversation about Responsibility and Accountability - up now on YouTube Linked in bio #selfawareness #selfdevelopme
Knowledge (specific and precise awareness of responsibility) + Understanding (internalizing how the reality of responsibility belongs to me and how my engagement with responsibility affects you) + Willingness (my commitment to taking action aligned
Cutting people off is too often an immature reaction. You’re going to need to learn to communicate. Relationships grow when we coach each other toward what we need, not when we make solo-decisions that affect us both. When I work with coupl

I help people who want their best self and their best relationship. We seriously evaluate your position and strategically close the gap between who you are now and the person you have to become to get the quality of life you want.

Privately, I help clients expedite their process with high-level support and guidance. Publicly, I create content helping people with aligned values and goals feel sane, refined, and heard.