Taylor Chandler

Taylor Chandler is on a mission to develop individuals into their best selves and help couples grow successful, satisfying relationships.

This is high level strategy and support to upgrade your life.

Taylor Chandler — Personal Development Coach + Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Work with Me

Are We the Right Fit?

I work with individuals and couples who want to live at a higher standard.

Individuals who work with my typically want 1-2 these things:

Higher quality dating experiences with the intention to marry
Improve self within a relationship to clean up your side of the street
Reveal blind spots and faulty thinking that blocks you from your goals

Couples who work with me typically want one or more (maybe all) of these things:

Improve communication to resolve misunderstandings and extract root causes
Identify needs so both are satisfied and expectations are clarified
Resolve attachment style conflicts to cultivate a secure connection
Release baggage that has caused trust issues, resentment, and disconnection
Reliably de-escalate conflict a create win-win solutions
Check compatibility through exploring values, vision, and goals

Is that you?

Let’s meet on a consultation.

1. Get a Grip

We cut through noise and clear the internal clutter so you can finally see what’s happening beneath the surface— the patterns, habits, mindsets, and emotional conditioning that keep you over-functioning and over-investing with the wrong people.

This is where the drain stops.

2. Stop Compromising

Get clear about what you want — your needs, your lifestyle, the quality of relationship you’re building, and the personal goals that matter. Then stand on your square.

Instead of shrinking your needs so others feel comfortable, you learn to operate as someone who doesn’t overextend to be loved and accepted. Stop chasing. Stop performing.

Stop bending yourself around low-effort people.
Stop compromising your experience for people who don’t show up with the same effort or intention.
Stop negotiating with people who don’t show up in good faith.

You start choosing and creating mutuality because you live from a higher standard — and your relationships start to match it.

3. Step Into It

I help you align your thinking, behavior, boundaries, and emotional responses with who you’re becoming.

No contorting. No shrinking. No forcing.

Real change within you that creates real change around you — the kind that makes your relationships feel equal, steady, and worth the effort you bring.

You operate from clarity instead of urgency, standards instead of appeasing, and solid identity instead of shaky insecurity.

This is where your external life starts reflecting your internal elevation — naturally, consistently, and with ease.

Please don’t miss my next episode 👉 “Weight & Relationships: The Truth We Don’t Want to Talk About” 👩🏾‍🏫 Getting into the health stats and the reality of women being passed over or left because they’re overweight or obese. We’ll talk about why this is hard for so many women to believe or do anything about, why men don’t tell them the truth, and what can be done about it for the women who are willing. 💋 After that, “Pretty & Stuck: The Lies Pretty Women Believe and Where it Leaves Them” If you’re a physically attractive and single woman, please do not miss this. This episode will be about the feedback that confuses pretty women, the reality that shocks and disorients them, and the barriers they face to make the appropriate changes (hint: it’s a lot of internal conflict). Will also include solutions for the women who are willing. 🛎️ Subscribe to YouTube and turn notifications on so you don’t miss it! 👉 THIS reel is from “4 Things Every Woman Must Get Right” — up now & linked in my Story. #health #fitness #weightloss #personaltrainer #blackhealth #insulin

I’m writing! More on that at the end. Here are some books on my shelf I want to share with you today ⬇️ 1. Psychocybernetics — If you like the *way* I think and solve problems you will love this book. I was coming off a break from reading a ton of Christian literature. When I read this in April 2025 it re-ignited the part of me that had me start my business in the first place. That part of me came back to life in a new way. It’s really aligned with my mindset. 2. The Phoenix Transformation — I got this book after watching Brian Tracy’s 9 hour lecture (same title) on YouTube. I’ve loved Brian Tracy for years. He was one of the people I listened to daily when I was intentionally tapping into my higher self and also starting my business. He is plain, direct, and results-oriented. If you love fundamental principles for living and working, I think you will enjoy him. 3. Daring Greatly— For years I mistakenly thought this book would be TOO soft to be practical or helpful. I was wrong. Brené Brown is a master at emotions and vulnerability, and she does her work in such a way that will open naturally what you have shelved or unconsciously feared — without feeling like she’s *trying* to do it. It’s one of the best books I’ve ever read! I am recommending this to everyone. Do the prompts in the back! 4. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents— the book I’ve recommended most to my clients. I don’t spend *as much* time talking about parents as I used to. But taking time with your childhood is incredibly valuable. This book gives language to help you understand how your parents’ may have affected you (without villainizing them), which is really helpful in understanding yourself. There is also a Part 2 which is about Recovering from those dynamics. 5. Oh, the Places You’ll Go!— Life can feel very heavy especially when stressed and confused. After I took the picture of the cover, I went back and read it. I decided to include the last pages for you. 👉 So again, I’m writing! In my Story (right now) there’s a poll on which ebook you want me to make available first. #books #reading #selfdevelopment

I truly enjoy working with my clients. You are the type who values growth & honesty, balanced with relational & emotional intelligence. You highly value yourself and others. Argustic was an ideal client who took every session seriously yet with humor, he strived to be true to himself while considering the impact of people around him. He expanded, became more self-aware, owned what he wanted, and continues to go after it. I’m honored to have been chosen to be a part of your journey. It takes a lot of courage to be as open and honest as he was, and because he took those steps, he was able to pull deeply from our time together to support his goals. 👉 If you’re interested in working with me, fill out the interest form in my bio and I’ll reach out with a link to schedule a consultation.

Sympathy may be included in Support, but it does not encompass all that Support is. Support is helping you with the burden. Sometimes helping you with a burden means showing you how much of the weight you’re responsible for, so you can fix habits keeping you low and stuck. Sometimes it’s helping you see you have a lot of power — right now — to take some of that weight off, regardless of who put it there. Too many people have wasted too much time in therapy with a great sounding board, but without momentum. Spending months or even a year+ swirling around the same topics and the same patterns, without a clear way out. I go about my process with you quite differently. And that’s why my clients move on with their lives and out of the cycles 🔥 👉 If you’re interested in working with me, complete the form in my bio and I’ll reach out with a consult call link. 👉 This full episode is on YouTube: Cardi x Offset — What they Teach Us About Cheating and Modern Relationships #boundaries #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #therapy #datingandrelationships #dating #support

Context doesn’t cancel truth, it applies truth to human dynamics. When you learn how to hold truth AND context without losing yourself in either extreme— relationships thrive, both people feel “seen, heard, and understood” and win-win situations are created. I’m not throwing away guidelines — I’m teaching how to apply them with wisdom. We’re balancing truth and context, freedom and responsibility. It takes maturity and attention. You’re going to have to sit through some long-form content to capture different angles of enduring relationship problems, and to understand how to solve them. Subscribe to my YouTube and catch up before the next episode! Link in bio. #relationships #context #dating #marriage #datingadvice #datingandrelationships

Please don’t miss my next episode 👉 “Weight & Relationships: The Truth We Don’t Want to Talk About” 👩🏾‍🏫 Getting into the health stats and the reality of women being passed over or left because they’re overweight or obese. We’ll talk about why this is hard for so many women to believe or do anything about, why men don’t tell them the truth, and what can be done about it for the women who are willing. 💋 After that, “Pretty & Stuck: The Lies Pretty Women Believe and Where it Leaves Them” If you’re a physically attractive and single woman, please do not miss this. This episode will be about the feedback that confuses pretty women, the reality that shocks and disorients them, and the barriers they face to make the appropriate changes (hint: it’s a lot of internal conflict). Will also include solutions for the women who are willing. 🛎️ Subscribe to YouTube and turn notifications on so you don’t miss it! 👉 THIS reel is from “4 Things Every Woman Must Get Right” — up now. #health #fitness #weightloss #personaltrainer #blackhealth

Learn Principles of Relational and Personal Development to help guide you to good decisions. In this episode (not this reel) I talk more about the importance of context of nuance when navigating the way. It’s tempting to want simple answers to relational problems, but reality requires more critical thinking than that. Bottom line truths about “the way things are” can often be simplified to just a few words or a sentence. But when multiple perspectives enter the chat, the truth now seems like it’s compromised. That threatens us who like order, clarity, and efficiency. Eventually you realize you have to either expand to include more, or shut down and reject other ways of thinking and seeing the world. One will get you peace with others. The other will get you peace in isolation. You have to determine what you want. If you want the former, you have to learn relationships are a balancing act that most people tire from, so they drop out. You also learn that you have the opportunity to expand your capacity and thinking. You can learn to engage more than your own perspective. You learn that’s the way to sustain and grow relationships rather than breaking them out of frustration and fatigue. 👉 I’m going to need your feedback about the format of this episode. I want to hear what’s working and the critiques of the layout of the episode please 🙏🏾 Leave a comment on YouTube! Subscribe to my YouTube and turn notifications on 🔔 so you don’t miss the next episode. Topic: Weight & Relationships. #dating #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #accountability #responsibility #personaldevelopment #blacklove #blackmarriage

One thing this is NOT: This is not blaming you for your partner cheating. Emotions surrounding infidelity really stops most people from gleaning good information from the situation. Looking at how you contributed to the breakdown of a relationship only helps you, even if this examination process hurts. You’re either going to swallow the pill and get better or keep trying to get better outcomes with a disability you refuse to acknowledge. 👉 This will will be on YouTube tonight & on Apple + Spotify tomorrow morning. It includes: Offset, Cardi B, The Importance of Principles + Context + Nuance, How to Handle Cheating & Who is Responsible, and more 👀 I’m going to need your feedback about the format! I want to hear what’s working and the critiques of the layout of the episode please 🙏🏾 Subscribe to my YouTube and turn notifications on 🔔 so you don’t miss it. Subscribe to my YouTube and turn notifications on 🔔 so you don’t miss it. #dating #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #accountability #responsibility #personaldevelopment #blacklove #blackmarriage

This kind of statement separates humans into two groups — I’ll let you name the categories. 👉 This clip is from an episode I’m putting up on YouTube tomorrow. Haven’t titled it yet but it includes: Offset, Cardi B, The Importance of Principles + Context + Nuance, How to Handle Cheating & Who is Responsible, and more 👀 I’m going to need your feedback about the format! I want to hear what’s working and the critiques of the layout of the episode please 🙏🏾 Subscribe to my YouTube and turn notifications on 🔔 so you don’t miss it. #entitled #entitlement #accountability #responsibility #personaldevelopment

When you’re in shape you’re so much more attractive. And for Black women specifically - so many Black women are out of shape (8 out of 10 are overweight or obese) - that when you’re fit you’re a standout! Add a great attitude on top of that and you’re damn near a unicorn. Don’t look at the overweight women married to their husband for 25 years. Look at who is getting the kind of men you would want to date yourself RIGHT NOW. We will continue to talk about health because the USA is in a state of emergency with overweight + obesity off the charts, and it’s directly impacting the dating market. 🔔 Subscribe to my YouTube! The next episode or the one after will be an update on the stats and new research. ▶️ This Episode: 4 Things Every Woman Must Get Right on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify 🔗 All linked in bio #relationshipadvice #health #fitness #obesity #overweight #healthcoach #personaltrainer #dating #datingadvice #datingandrelationships

I help clients move faster and go deeper with high level coaching and support. I work with people who want to choose the right relationships — and be chosen for the right reasons. And I create content for people who are as obsessed with self-development as I am.

Taylor Chandler is on a mission to develop individuals into their best selves and help couples grow successful, satisfying relationships.

This is high level strategy and support to upgrade your life.

Are We the Right Fit?